Sometimes, I find it very difficult to survive in a society where people make their opinions only on assumptions and give verdict about a person, keeping in mind his or her family background.
Since my birth, I feel the pressure of becoming a sportsman against most of the people’s supposition of a literate person. I was born to a family where my grandparents, parents, uncles, aunties, and elder brother are all, in one way, or the other, part of the literati family. I am the only one who is not a regular part of these circles, maybe because of my job responsibilities, or my reserved nature.
Despite being associated with the journalistic career for over two decades, some people still believe that I am a misfit in my family. I cannot challenge or change anybody’s opinion, but what is the criterion of measuring fitness, still remains unknown to me.
It is not necessary that children follow their parents’, especially father’s footsteps in their professional lives, but generally the mindset is contrary to that. Mostly, people presume that if a father is a poet, writer, teacher, sportsman, banker, etc, all his children will grow in any one of the disciples, but it is not the case. Every person has his or her own identity and personality.
Living in that part of the world where people enjoy pinpointing others for no reason, it has become a challenge to bring change in the overall mindset. I was always an average student and was more inclined towards sports, especially cricket, but for most of the people, I was not doing justice with my parents. My parents never dislike me for being a sportsman, rather they supported me all my life and never compared me with my elder brother, who turns out to be a known literary figure not only in Pakistan, but globally, for that reason. I remember, my father used to say to us (me and my brother) that a person is free to make a choice of his own, but whatever he chooses, he should excel in that and we always do that.
I never had an answer to a question of my mother who often asks me why you left playing cricket and opted journalism as a career. Maybe, in my subconscious, I feel the pressure of that fallacy of following the footsteps.
A few people, who know me and my background, still express shock over how an average human being like me is part of that scholarly family, but for all those, “I am not a misfit, no matter what popular demand says”.
I know most of us get inspiration from someone we like or want to follow, mostly our parents, which is natural, but pushing someone to fulfill our dreams is unnatural and unethical, as well.
I firmly believe most of us face situations, where people interfere in our lives by giving opinions, rather final judgements, but never accept the disadvantages attached to it. They cannot feel the emotions of that person on which they are imposing their verdicts, which in some cases, lead towards psychological disorders. This is also one of the major reasons that suicide incidents reach an alarming proportion across the world, especially in the Third World countries.
With the exception of a few, most of the people consider it their birth right to pass judgements on others and in doing so they breach all the moral and ethical values.
It is time, we all understand the severity of the issue and stop interfering in others’ lives, and mind our own business. “Live and let others live”.